A divorce is an experience no couple anticipates during the wedding. During the wedding, everyone sees the future different; one with hope, love, and happiness. As usual in every relationship, there are moments of disagreements and happiness. When it gets to divorce, this is when things have got out of hand. A divorce may be as a result of an unfaithful partner, lack of trust and love in a relationship among many other factors.
After the divorce process is over and the divorce court has made the appropriate ruling on the custody of the kids and division of property, it is time for everyone to heal and get back to the track. However, men tend to adapt fast and start dating again than women. Most women slow down on dating matter. Below we discuss Why Some Women Will Not Date After Divorce:
1.Dwelling on disappointment.
When a woman decides to get married to a particular man, they commit themselves and their lives. They view the man as their husband and father to their kids. After the man being unfaithful or being abusive, women feel disappointed by their choice. Their feelings fade away too. In this case, they will even demand a divorce although it will hurt them.
After the divorce, they dwell on the disappointment and try to avoid other future disappointment. They end up bringing up kids on their own not thinking of marriage ever again.
2.Fear of men.
When men are trying to make women like/love them, they are usually so sweet, kind, humble and patient. Once the ‘prey’ is down, men bounce back and tend to be a bit reckless. This is the stage where they start cheating on their spouse, physically abusing them or not giving them attention.
Women who expected much become frustrated and tend to view the man as a devil. If the man doesn’t change and it leads to a divorce, women will run from dating. They start seeing the next smart guy ‘wooing’ them as another trap to a bad life.
3.Respect to the kids.
It is never a good picture for kids if their parents are divorcing. They are left stranded on who to follow. Unless the woman abused drugs and viewed unfit to bring up the kids, kids below the age of 18 years are left with the mum. Dating again now becomes impossible. This is because most women will not see any man fit to be the step-father to their kids. They fear that the man me not respect or love them.
Women also avoid dating because they don’t want their kids to undergo the traumatic experience they endured in the previous relationship. They prefer to stay alone and show their kids, pure love.
4.The desire to be independent.
Relying on the decisions of a man is a thing the current woman dislikes. The empowerment has given them the freedom that they want to exercise in their homes. This has led to so many divorces because it is natural that the man wants to feel superior.
After a divorce, such independent women switch off from dating and prefer a single mother life. Most of them will call it a stress-free experience, where you do what you like and how you like it without seeking permission from the man.
The above are some of the reasons why women avoid dating after a divorce. However, it should be noted that women are different. There are those who love dating and those who rank dating down on their priority list. Those who love dating, heal from the divorce and try to look for love elsewhere.