Day: March 1, 2019

Why Some Women Will Not Date After Divorce

Frank Kiley

A divorce is an experience no couple anticipates during the wedding. During the wedding, everyone sees the future different; one with hope, love, and happiness. As usual in every relationship, there are moments of disagreements and happiness. When it gets to divorce, this is when things have got out of hand. A divorce may be as a result of an unfaithful partner, lack of trust and love in a relationship among many other factors.

After the divorce process is over and the divorce court has made the appropriate ruling on the custody of the kids and division of property, it is time for everyone to heal and get back to the track. However, men tend to adapt fast and start dating again than women. Most women slow down on dating matter. Below we discuss Why Some Women Will Not Date After Divorce:

1.Dwelling on disappointment.

When a woman decides to get married to a particular man, they commit themselves and their lives. They view the man as their husband and father to their kids. After the man being unfaithful or being abusive, women feel disappointed by their choice. Their feelings fade away too. In this case, they will even demand a divorce although it will hurt them.

After the divorce, they dwell on the disappointment and try to avoid other future disappointment. They end up bringing up kids on their own not thinking of marriage ever again.

2.Fear of men.

When men are trying to make women like/love them, they are usually so sweet, kind, humble and patient. Once the ‘prey’ is down, men bounce back and tend to be a bit reckless. This is the stage where they start cheating on their spouse, physically abusing them or not giving them attention.

Women who expected much become frustrated and tend to view the man as a devil. If the man doesn’t change and it leads to a divorce, women will run from dating. They start seeing the next smart guy ‘wooing’ them as another trap to a bad life.

3.Respect to the kids.

It is never a good picture for kids if their parents are divorcing. They are left stranded on who to follow. Unless the woman abused drugs and viewed unfit to bring up the kids, kids below the age of 18 years are left with the mum. Dating again now becomes impossible. This is because most women will not see any man fit to be the step-father to their kids. They fear that the man me not respect or love them.

Women also avoid dating because they don’t want their kids to undergo the traumatic experience they endured in the previous relationship. They prefer to stay alone and show their kids, pure love.

4.The desire to be independent.

Relying on the decisions of a man is a thing the current woman dislikes. The empowerment has given them the freedom that they want to exercise in their homes. This has led to so many divorces because it is natural that the man wants to feel superior.

After a divorce, such independent women switch off from dating and prefer a single mother life. Most of them will call it a stress-free experience, where you do what you like and how you like it without seeking permission from the man.

The above are some of the reasons why women avoid dating after a divorce. However, it should be noted that women are different. There are those who love dating and those who rank dating down on their priority list. Those who love dating, heal from the divorce and try to look for love elsewhere.

Four Tips to Make Woodworking Designs Work for You

Frank Kiley

Are you itching to embark on woodworking projects at home? The internet is a good resource to find an assortment of types of woodworking designs that you can do. Expect to uncover broad range of plans from simple to ambitious projects. Regardless of your skill level and time budget, there is always something for you to do – choices are so enormous that you will never run out of projects.

It is a great way to express creativity and a challenging one, too, as one’s skill and artistry are put to test to be able to integrate functionality in most projects. While one can create artwork from wood, functional products like furniture making is still the top product of woodwork. Nevertheless, it is always good to check the details to know if your skill level is appropriate to complete the project.

More importantly, do not assume that all woodworking designs are created equal or are appropriate for every skill level of the woodworker. What must be your considerations when screening designs and plans?

1. Know your skill level and limit yourself on those designs that can be completed based on the skill level that you have. Cabinets are definitely good projects especially if you have a need for it but it can be too difficult for you and just end up wasting money if you will not be able to finish what was started.  Start with projects that will let you progressively develop the various skills needed to be able to more advanced woodwork. Focus on learning precise measurements, the use of basic hand tools and later power tools that will improve your dexterity and efficiency.

2. Check on the tools that the design demands. It is futile to choose a plan in which the required tools are not present in your collection. If you want to build your tool set in the woodwork shop, it is also good to choose projects that will demand a new tool that you can acquire. For instance, a jigsaw is a great power tool to acquire for woodworking projects, and you need to pick the jigsaw that’s best for your budget, yet fully-functional at the same time.

3. A good woodworking plan must also include a complete list of materials for the entire project. Buying all the materials at one time can save you money and time. This can even help you figure out the total cost even before you begin the project. For ambitious projects that will require a substantial amount of money to complete, dividing the tasks into phases is a good strategy. This can also split the costs into phases so that you can buy the materials as you start with each phase. This will also allow you to order certain hard to find materials in advance though you need to be sure that all the materials can be made available when you need them.

4. Make certain that there is a step-by-step instruction that come with the design or plan. Check those that need assembly plans and make sure that these can be done when you order them.

There is no doubt that working on wood is both a rewarding and practical hobby. The experiences to be gained are positive but only when you have the guidance of good workable woodworking designs and plans. Advancing in skills is attainable once these experiences are positive and provided there is enough enthusiasm and interest.